Online Dating And Success

For anyone who is involved in the online dating process their goal is to find that right person either for dating or for a long term relationship. Despite all the negativity around online dating there are many success stories of people who have the right person for them and are having agreat time.     

            

Your first date is going to be the starting point of whether or not there are more dates in the future. So what do you do if you’re having a good time and you want a second date? The only thing that you can do is let your date know that you’re interested in more of the same thing.

Online dating is a little like putting your heart on your sleeve for someone else to see. If you’re

having a good time you need to let them know so that you can either make plans for another

date or mutually agree that this will be the only date. Just because you think the date has been

a success doesn’t mean that your date will think so. This is where honesty comes in; you both

need to say what you feel so that you know where the date is going. Success in online dating

isn’t as rare as many people seem to think it is. The key to this success is taking a chance and

being honest.

Flirting Tips: Flirting 101

Flirting is a great way to get and keep the attention of that special someone. Flirting can be easy

and fun it just requires some sincerity and a little practice. Flirting should never be done just for

the sake of it. Even though it is harmless you have to remember that you are playing with

someone’s’ emotions. Flirting with someone your not interested in to get something in return just

isn’t nice. In this article we will offer some advice on flirting. We will look at some places that

offer excellent flirting opportunities and give some advice on how to do it.

Get Out There

Anyone who moans about not being able to find anyone isn’t trying hard enough. There are

plenty of great men and women out there to meet and get to know. Anyone who says this likely

heads straight home from work and spend the rest of the evening in front of the television.

Meeting people requires some effort. If you’re on your own all of the time it will never happen.

You need to get out on occasion and see others.

Many use the excuse, “I don’t like the bar and night club scene”. Well. You don’t have too. In

fact most lasting relationships were started in places other than bars and clubs. A great place to

start is where you spend about 1/3 of your life. This is at work. Those that form lasting

relationships in the work place last by a much larger percentage than those formed in the bar

and club arenas.

Work colleagues make great possible life partners but make sure your flirting won’t get you

fired. Some companies have no dating policies. These are difficult to enforce but they can make

your life difficult. You should also keep your behavior at work professional. Do the flirting outside

of work, or at breaks or lunches. Wasting company time could bring disciplinary action.

If work doesn’t provide anyone that you are interested in then think of other areas in your life.

Perhaps join a gym to get fit. These are great places to improve your health as well as meet

others. Courses and seminars are also ideal opportunities.

Meeting people isn’t as difficult as your think. You need to think about places you regularly go

and activities you could engage in. One does not have to be a bar fly to meet interesting people.

You simply need to switch off the TV and get out of your house.

Flirting Tips: Be Interesting And Unique

You have powers of attraction that you don’t even realize. Even if you feel you don’t have much

to offer, trust me you do. You don’t have to be a 6 ft runway model or make a 6 figure secretary

to attract. You simply need to find out what is unique and interesting about you and show it off.

Most of us like to read books of one type or another. Even if you don’t read very often, chances

are you have had the odd paperback in you bag for those long waiting times at airports or

appointments. These are ways to draw those who like the same types of reading close to you.

By having these with you and actually reading them, sooner or later someone will notice. This is

the perfect opportunity to have a conversation with someone who has a similar interest. Where

things go from there is entirely up to you.

Some of us like certain items or styles of clothing. If you like something, wear it. Someone is

bound to notice and make a comment. Again, this provides a great opportunity to meet

someone with similar taste to yours. Once you start talking the opportunities are endless.

Finally, you can be interesting by looking interested. If you meet someone, let them have the

floor for the majority of the time. Don’t stay completely quiet but let them have about 60 percent

of the talk time. This makes you appear interested in them, which is a very attractive quality.

Being interesting doesn’t take a lot of effort. You definitely have something unique about you;

use it to your advantage.

Flirting Tips: What To Concentrate On

Many make the mistake of saying too much while they are flirting. The truth be told, you really

don’t have to say much. Flirting starts long before either person utters a word. The first thing

people tend to notice is how someone looks. After that it is body language and then it is what is

said. In fact, by the time you say anything, about 80 percent of the attention of the other party is

used up. However, things can still go wrong.

When flirting, concentrate on how you look. This is what will initially get you noticed. You should

dress appropriately for the occasion. If you’re at a formal dinner, dress formally. If you’re at a

friend’s party, go casual but neat. You want to get noticed but not shock others. Don’t show too

much off or the attention you attract might be the wrong kind.

Next you need to concentrate on body language. Use language that lets them know you’re

interested. Make eye contact and smile. Don’t worry about looking obvious. In fact looking

obvious is what you want. Pretending not to notice someone you’re interested in never works.

They usually leave and the opportunity is lost.

Finally, you do need to say the right things. As stated above only about 20 percent of flirting

involves conversation. However, you don’t want this 20 percent to mess up the previous 80. It

can happen and quite often does. Stay away from the old tired pick up lines. Even if they are

meant jokingly, leave them. They are as transparent as plastic wrap and never work. Avoid the

desire to be cool and assertive at first. Walking over with a drink before even saying hello is a

great way to put someone off. Finally, give compliments but don’t over do it. Be sincere. Phony

compliments are worse than none at all.

Flirting Tips: At Bars And Night Clubs

The bars and night club scene isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, however it is fine to flirt in this

situation. Bars and night clubs offer a fun and relaxed atmosphere and often have many

interesting people. However, there are some precautions that should be taken before you start

fluttering those eyelids.

The bar and nightclub scene will likely involve alcohol. You need to be aware of how much you

have had before you start flirting. Keep in mind that after about 3 or 4 rum and cokes, everyone

starts to look slightly more attractive. They also seem much more interesting. You certainly don’t

have to have an alcohol free night but just keep an eye on how much you do take in. It does

affect everyone’s judgment.

Also, when flirting in this venue remember, this is likely the first time you have met this person.

Take things slow and be direct. If you don’t want things to progress past a certain point then put

the brakes on. A little embarrassment and ego bruising now can save you from some dire

consequences later.

Finally, have someone with you. You don’t have to spend the entire evening together but check

on each other from time to time. Those with bad intentions are a lot less likely to approach those

in a pack.

Using bars and night clubs for flirting opportunities is fine provided a few precautions are taken.

Flirting Tips: When It Goes Bad

There are times in all of our lives when we have attracted the wrong person. Either you not

interested in them at all or have been completely put off by their flirting techniques. When this

happens many of us don’t know what to do. Some end up enduring a whole evening of bad

jokes and stale pick up lines until the night finally comes to a close.

When confronted with this situation, there are a few things you can do. The first thing you need

to consider is, would you be interested in this person if the flirting wasn’t so bad? If so, try to be

polite and take over. Chances are this person is just nervous and has gotten in over their head.

Once the calm down things should be fine. If you wouldn’t be interested at all then you still

should try to be polite. Remember, that this is a person with feelings. Just say, no thank you or

some other excuse and they should leave.

If they persist then you have the right to be a bit more assertive. Be direct and tell them you’re

not interested. They should get the hint at this point.

If they continue to persist then you need to take them down a peg or two. You could ask if they

have the professional’s guide to flirting. If they say no, tell them to get a copy and practice on

someone else.

Flirting is a great way to meet and get to know people. However, despite our best efforts,

sometimes it can go wrong. Be direct and assertive and that unwanted attention should go

away.